Holly Hagan-Blyth opened up about intimacy after childbirth while co-hosting the CBeebies Parenting Helpline
Sex is an integral part of many people's relationships. But for some, a loss of libido is common after life-changing events, such as pregnancy and childbirth, according to the NHS.
Reality TV star and fitness coach Holly Hagan-Blyth says this happened to her after having her son.
"I could have said, 'listen, if you don't touch me ever again, I'm not even bothered' because that's just how I felt at the time," she said when co-hosting the CBeebies Parenting Helpline.
Sex and relationship therapist Rachel Gold said mothers often expect to become intimate again after their six-week postnatal check.
"I think that really fools people into believing that this must be the time to have sex again, but it isn't true."
Holly said her sex drive dipped after the arrival of her son Alpha-Jax in 2023 and she started to avoid any sort of intimacy.
"Whenever I would give him [her husband Jacob] any type of affection, like a touch or a cuddle, I felt it was going to lead to the full thing, to sex, and I didn't want that."
"I started having a negative connotation doing anything towards him."
Being open with her husband helped, she says.
"As soon as I said, this is how I'm feeling, 'whenever I'm cuddling you and touching, can we just not make it lead to the next thing? Because it's just making me not want to do that', and all of a sudden everything was so much better because that pressure was taken off."
Her husband Jacob was worried she no longer fancied him.
"I was like, 'you need to realise this has nothing to do with you. I am feeling this way at the moment, but I don't think any differently of you.'"
"I don't really feel like having sex right now, or even maybe in the next few months. This is my issue that I'm going through, and I just need to work through it."
Holly hopes that couples experiencing the same issues can be more open.
"People do say the relationship changes after having a child, but I don't think that until you're in it, you really, truly, realise how much it changes."
Dr Jennifer Lincoln, a specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology, says there are many reasons why women may not want to have sex after giving birth.
"There's a lot of healing that happens. It takes about six weeks for the uterus to return to its pre-pregnancy size. Any tears in the vagina or perineum are also healing."
There are also big hormonal changes for women which can impact their libido.
"Levels of estrogen and progesterone drop drastically. The lower estrogen levels can lead to physical changes like vaginal dryness, which can make sex painful."
"People usually think menopause is the single most acute shift in hormone levels that a woman will ever experience, but actually the few days surrounding childbirth are."
Holly Hagan-Blyth
Rachel stresses there is no timeline for resuming sex and it is unique to every couple.
It's not just an issue that affects mothers. CBeebies Parenting Helpline listener Frankie, who had her baby three months ago, said her male partner had gone off sex.
"I hate my body at the moment, and all I want is a bit more attention from my partner, but he just doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. I feel stuck."
Rachel says that men sometimes struggle to be open about their feelings.
"Stepping into fatherhood can bring up all sorts of things in a man... that could be a very big factor putting him off wanting to have sex."
Fleur Parker, a practitioner from childbirth charity the NCT, says dealing with these emotions is often not seen as a priority for men.
"Talking honestly to your partner about how you're feeling can really help; do not assume they know what's happening or what you are thinking."
Tips for couples starting sex again after birth
If penetration hurts, say so. If you pretend that everything's all right when it isn't, you may start to see sex as unpleasant
Take it gently, hormonal changes after childbirth may mean couples may need to use a lubricant to help make sex more comfortable
Make time to relax together. You're more likely to engage in intimacy when your minds are on each other rather than on other things
Get help if you need it. If a mother is still experiencing pain when they have their postnatal check, it is important to talk to a local GP
Around one in 13 scheduled stops at City Thameslink were cancelled over the past year
City Thameslink in London has been named the worst of Britain's busiest railway stations for cancellations in the year to August.
About one in 13 of almost 150,000 scheduled stops there were cancelled during that time, according to Office of Rail and Road (ORR) figures analysed by BBC.
Those cancellations were among about three million cancelled stops in Britain of a scheduled 89 million.
The government says it is determined to drive up standards as it delivers what it describes as the biggest overhaul of the railways in a generation.
Action to improve the reliability of services cannot come soon enough for passengers like 23-year-old Cat Edge, a student from Surrey who contacted the BBC via Your Voice, Your BBC News.
One in 10 train stops were cancelled at her local train station of Earlswood in the year to August 2025.
She said when trains were delayed and trying to make up the time to reach bigger stops like nearby Gatwick, stops at smaller stations like hers were cancelled.
Despite leaving extra time, Cat said she was often late for university.
"It does feel like I miss out and come across poorly," she said. "It's difficult with professors who themselves have busy schedules, trying to say, 'oh, can I have a 20-minute lenience window?' It's quite embarrassing."
Earlswood had the sixth worst cancellation rate of any train station in Britain in the past year, excluding a small number of stations with unreliable or incomplete data.
It is managed by Thameslink, also in charge of City Thameslink station, which had the worst cancellation rate of Britain's 100 busiest stations.
Cat said: "It's so stressful, especially if when you get on a train, it's dark and you don't know whether it's actually going to stop at your station. It's scary."
She said she would welcome more advance notice if a train is not stopping at her station and would like more reliable trains late at night.
"That's when it's the worst and you're the most vulnerable," she added.
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Cat Edge says trains from her local station are often cancelled, and it can make her feel unsafe at night
Emma Pickard, network operations and performance director for Thameslink and Network Rail, said they were "deeply sorry" for the disruption experienced by passengers.
She said Thameslink had been working hard to make services more reliable, tackling issues such as signalling and power supply faults, improving traincrew availability, and investing to make the network more resilient to severe weather and other unexpected events.
"When incidents outside our control do occur, such as poor weather or trespass we aim to restore the service as quickly as possible, however on a network as busy and complex as Thameslink's the disruption can be felt widely," she said.
"At times we have to make the very difficult decision to cancel some trains to get the timetable back on track."
'I was walking until midnight'
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Sheila O'Donnell had to walk for an hour and a half to get home following a cancellation
The issue of trains being cancelled late at night can be particularly difficult for passengers in rural areas.
Sheila O'Donnell, 73, lives in Arnside in Cumbria. She said her train was often cancelled when getting home from work or out seeing friends in nearby cities.
Our data shows one in 17 planned stops from the station ended up being cancelled in the past year.
"It happens so often, I'm resigned to it," she said. "The worst one I've had, I was on the train to Liverpool to celebrate somebody's big birthday, I got back to Lancaster at 21:10 to find the next train had been cancelled."
A friend dropped her at the bus station but the nearest stop was still a walk of 4.5 miles (7.24 km) from her home.
"I couldn't get a taxi," she said. "From 22:30 to midnight, I had to walk home along the dark country lane. Hardly any lights and I needed the torch on my phone."
BBC analysis calculated the percentage of cancelled stops out of those scheduled for the last 13 periods of data published by the Office of Rail and Road.
Out of all 2,549 stations, 78 were excluded from the analysis due to missing or unreliable data. This differs from the cancellation analysis by the Rail Delivery Group, which represents Network Rail and train operators.
Britain’s worst train stations for cancellations revealed
Michael Solomon Williams from Campaign for Better Transport said around three million train cancellations was "simply unacceptable" and eroding faith in the railways.
"We need a reliable, affordable and accessible rail network to deliver economic growth, increase productivity and reduce carbon emissions," he said.
He called for "tougher targets, automatic compensation, and proper investment to restore trust" with the rail industry and government collaborating.
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Peter Howard tries to avoid trains altogether following several cancellations during the pandemic
Peter Howard, 58, commutes from Macclesfield to London. After several cancellations during the pandemic, he decided to avoid trains altogether.
"I just got fed up with it," he said. "I thought I'm not taking that risk any more and I ended up driving."
Over the years, Peter said train cancellations meant he had missed working meetings, his son's sports day and school pick-ups.
He said: "They were the ones that hurt the most. There'd be that sense of disappointment - 'dad's not here, he should have been'.
Peter has since returned to using the trains and feels the situation has improved recently, but added: "There was a period, I think last year in the summer, where it was something of a Russian roulette as to whether the train had turned up or not."
The data shows that, in the past year, one in 24 planned stops ended up being cancelled in Macclesfield.
Great British Railways, a new arm's length body, will oversee the rail system in England, Wales and Scotland in a move that the government hopes will bring savings while also reducing delays and cancellations.
The legislation needed to establish the new body is still due to go through parliament, but some services have already been transferred into public ownership as franchises held by private companies start to expire. All services are expected to be publicly owned by the end of 2027.
The DfT said it was already starting to see "positive signs of progress with overall cancellations starting to fall".
On the face of it, the number of cancelled train stops has gone down in the most recent four-week period, when compared to the period just before or the same period last year.
However, the cancellation rate for the past year was still slightly higher than the previous one - 3.3%, up from 3.2%.
A Rail Delivery Group spokeperson said train operators "spare no effort to maintain as many services as possible" but extreme weather, infrastructure faults and trespass could have an impact.
It apologised to those affected, saying it had introduced Visual Disruption Maps - videos to help passengers navigate service changes - and was raising awareness of the Delay Repay scheme to simplify compensation.
Additional reporting by Kris Bramwell, Lauren Woodhead and Jonathan Fagg
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David Tennant (pictured left, in The Hack), plays the real-life Guardian journalist Nick Davies (right, in 2011)
Writer Jack Thorne has praised the "remarkable" journalists who exposed the use of phone hacking in some parts of the media, ahead of a new TV series about the scandal.
ITV's forthcoming drama The Hack stars David Tennant as Nick Davies, the investigative Guardian reporter who exposed the extent of hacking at Sunday tabloid the News of the World.
Thorne, who also wrote Netflix hit Adolescence, told BBC Radio 4's Today: "I thought I knew this as a story, I thought it was a story about journalists behaving badly, I thought the story started and ended with that.
"But actually... you see it's a lot more than that. It's a relationship between the press, politics and the police that's really troubling. And what we try to do in this show is uncover the detail of that."
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Thorne said phone hacking exposed a "troubling" relationship between some parts of the media and the police
The News of the World was closed down in 2011, after it emerged journalists at the paper had hacked phones of public figures in an effort to obtain exclusive stories.
Davies published several stories about phone hacking throughout the scandal, but public outrage reached a new level when it came to light that murdered schoolgirl Milly Dowler's voicemails were among those which had been hacked, giving her parents false hope that she was still alive.
For the ITV dramatisation of the scandal, Thorne has collaborated with some of the same team who made the hugely successful Mr Bates vs The Post Office.
"The difference between this and Mr Bates, which I think is really fascinating, is that Mr Bates was about the fact that journalism couldn't get purchase on this," Thorne told presenter Justin Webb.
Several journalists working for outlets including Computer Weekly, Private Eye and the BBC covered the Post Office Horizon IT scandal, but the story cut through to the public in a much bigger way after ITV's dramatisation aired in January 2024.
"There were brilliant journalists doing amazing work in the post office case," Thorne said, "but in this case, this is a celebration of brilliant journalists who actually managed to call their own industry to account.
"And I've thought a lot about that when working on this," he continued. "I think that I am instinctively a coward when it comes to looking at problems and calling out things within my own industry.
"The brilliance of these people [the journalists who exposed phone hacking]... to look at what's happening within the media sphere, and to do damage to that industry, is quite remarkable."
The Hack tells the story from two different points of view - that of Davies, as the journalist reporting on it, and police detective Dave Cook (played by Robert Carlyle), who investigated the murder of private investigator Daniel Morgan.
Tennant is one of more than 1,600 celebrities and other public figures to have settled out of court with News Group Newspapers, the publishers of the News of the World, over the phone hacking scandal.
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Adolescence, created and written by Jack Thorne and Stephen Graham, swept up at the recent Emmy Awards
The launch of The Hack comes after another of Thorne's TV dramas, Adolescence, dominated the Emmy Awards earlier this month.
The series, co-created by actor Stephen Graham, told the story of a schoolboy named Jamie Miller accused of murdering a female classmate, and explored the impact of smartphones and social media on teenagers.
Asked if there would be a follow-up, Thorne said: "Certainly not a sequel, I think we've told the Miller story as well as we possibly can.
"We might, well we're trying, Stephen [Graham] and I are trying, to write something which uses the same techniques, works with the same group of people, to shed light on a different aspect of our society."
The Hack begins on Wednesday 24 September at 21:00 BST on ITV1 and ITVX
“I support the Democrat in the race,” Ms. Harris said during an interview with Rachel Maddow. She added of the Democratic Party, “we’ve got a big tent and we’ve got a lot of stars.”
Former Vice President Kamala Harris during a charity gala in April. She endorsed Zohran Mamdani for mayor of New York during an interview on Monday night.